Never intimidated, never jealous, My spirit soars, my heart propels, I’m not in competition, no need to impress, My own blessings are enough, I must confess.

I am content with who I am, With each new day, I become a better woman, I am grateful for what I have, I strive for greatness, not to be better than.

My journey is mine, it’s unique and true, I will not compare myself to you, I am focused on my own goals, My blessings are abundant, my soul glows.

So I walk my path, head held high, Grateful for my life, no need to vie, With anyone else, I am enough, My own blessings are plenty, that’s no bluff.

Stamina Tea 😘

Ingredients:

• 1 cup water
• 1 teaspoon grated ginger
• 1 teaspoon grated turmeric
• 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
• 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
• 1 tablespoon honey or maple syrup (optional)
• 1/4 cup coconut milk or almond milk

Instructions:

1. Bring water to a boil in a small pot.
2. Once water is boiling, add the ginger, turmeric, cinnamon, and black pepper.
3. Reduce the heat and let it simmer for 5-10 minutes.
4. Remove from heat and let it steep for another 5-10 minutes.
5. Strain the tea into a mug
6. Add honey or maple syrup, if desired
7. Stir in the coconut milk or almond milk.
8. Enjoy!

It’s raining men! ☔️

In exotic lands, I love to roam, Exploring new places, And cultures unknown.

Dark and tall, Vulnerable and strong, The men I encounter, I find to be so long.

Deep extracurriculars, That tease and delight, Handsome black men, With whom I indulge in the night.

Each one unique, Each one a treasure, I’ll continue to explore, At my own leisure.

The Treasure Chest

Love is a treasure, pure and true

A feeling that I’ve always knew

To share with someone, heart to heart

And never stray, to cheat or part

But love can be a fragile thing

And sometimes, it comes with a sting

My lover was a liar, you see

And the lies, they broke and confused me

They made me ill and full of doubt

But still, I couldn’t shake love out

For even in the darkest hour

I knew I couldn’t let it cower

So I’ll love love, with all my might

Though past experiences have been quite a fight

For true love is built on trust and honesty

And I’ll keep searching for that, with dignity

Love is pure, and love is strong

But lies, they do not belong

I’ll take my time, and choose with care

For a love that’s pure, is truly rare.

Dark-evader

Closer to light I tread,
But darkness is on my heels,
A constant shadow, it follows me,
And the weight of it, it never feels.

I strive for the brightness ahead,
But the night’s grip is hard to break,
I fight with all my might,
But the darkness, it never shakes.

But still I press on,
With hope in my heart and fire in my soul,
For I know that the light is waiting,
And the darkness can never take hold.

So I’ll keep moving forward,
With each step, I’ll push away the night,
For I know that the light is coming,
And soon, it will be in sight.

To my younger self.

Dear younger me,

As you read this letter, know that you are strong and capable. Life may seem uncertain and daunting at times, but you will come out on the other side, stronger and more resilient.

I know you’re going through a tough time right now, dealing with insecurities and self-doubt. But remember that you are worthy and deserving of happiness. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. Believe in yourself and your abilities, and know that you are capable of achieving great things.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. They are a part of life and are necessary for growth. Learn from them, and don’t let them define you.

Cherish the moments you have with the people you love. They will be the ones who will support you through the tough times, and the ones who will be by your side when you succeed.

Never stop dreaming and reaching for your goals. You have the power to shape your future and make your dreams a reality. Believe in yourself and keep pushing forward.

You are going to go through a lot of changes, but know that you are not alone. You will find your passion, your voice and your place in this world. You will make mistakes, but you will learn from them. You will find love, lose love, and find it again. You will discover new things about yourself and your surroundings. And most importantly, you will learn how to love and respect yourself.

With all my love, Your older self.

No love No light

He told me tales of love and light But in the end, it was all lies He whispered words that sounded true But now I see, they were but a ruse

The truth was hidden, deep inside and now my heart is filled with pride For I will not be fooled again By those who choose to wear a mask and pretend

Sadness creeps in like the tide But I will not let it be my guide For I am stronger than I know and I will not let his lies make me slow

So I will rise and I will stand and I will take back what is mine My heart, my soul, my dignity and I will not let him see me cry

For I am more than what he said And I will not let him have the last word I will move on and I will be free and in the end, that is all that matters to me.

Don’t take it personally..

No? How am I supposed to take it?

The point is, I LIKE to take things personally, I think it creates an interesting challenge — even closeness — and makes for lively, honest conversations that even lead to something, like discoveries about each other! I also not only like to take things personally, I like people to take ME and the things I do and say personally, because I’m a person who tries to be as personal as possible. Why? Because it gives me a soft, warm, emotional and personal feeling. It glosses over my insecurities and makes me feel like being “seen”, recognized, something we all crave, no matter how silly that is.

Of course, there are things I definitely don’t take personally or really don’t care about one way or another. Like when a dog would try to bite me, or if the bus driver doesn’t smile, or when a homeless lets down his pants on the subway and starts swinging it around — a daily sight in NYC.

Nope, not taking any of that personally. As for the rest… 🙄

Don’t let the darkness snuff out your light.

The harsh reality is that we live in a cruel world where more often then not, darkness can be found not only surrounding our every day lives, but can also be felt within ourselves. The flickering of news channels and news articles can almost always be counted on to be a bearer of bad new. Showing how much humanity is in chaos with the world and itself. 
Truth is that at the very moment your eyes are passing these very words, people are dying while others are crying. There are murderers, rapists, and abusers in this world causing their victims turmoil of a living hell. Millions of souls in this world are slowly losing faith in their dreams and hopes such as a candle light flickering just before it’s final moments of forever being blown out. There are people who are losing everything they ever loved, who are depressed beyond belief, who are suffering a disease that could take their lives atany moment  and who feel like their losing a war at which an unknown monster is winning. At this moment, people are homeless trying to find a way to survive each day. At this moment, there are people who are starving wondering where to find food each day. And at this moment, someone out there is ending their life because they decided they couldn’t handle the cruelty of this world anymore. And throughout all this, we stand and witness all this sadness and destruction. 
There’s a saying out there: The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it. 
And that’s just it. The world is a cruel place, but it is not without its good. I mean, for how evil this world is, there are so many people who do not sit by and not do anything about it. There are countless of people who are trying to help the less fortunate, who are trying to right the wrongs, and if anything…out there hoping for a better tomorrow. In a world full of darkness, it is still important to remember there are countless lights of good people with good hearts that still can be found and with it, hope for a this world to improve and be better. And as you’re reading these words, be one of the lights in this vast darkness. Be one of the good in this cruel world. Don’t let the darkness snuff out your light. 

Brown Stew Cauliflower

Ingredients:

* 1 medium cauliflower about 1 1/2 lbs* 2 tbsp grape seed oil

* 1 tsp sea salt

* 1 tsp freshly ground black pepper

* 1/2 tsp ground pimento berries/seeds allspice

* 1/4 tsp smoked paprika

* 1/4 cup onion diced

* 1/4 cup chopped carrots 

* 2 tbsp green bell pepper diced

* 1 clove garlic finely minced

* 1/2 tsp scotch bonnet 

* 1 tbsp chopped thyme

* 1 1/2 tsp Browning or may use brown sugar 

Instruction:

1. Cut cauliflower into flat steaks. Drizzle with grape seed oil. Sprinkle with salt, black pepper, pimento seeds, and smoked paprika. Gently toss to distribute.

2. Add onion, carrots, bell pepper, garlic, scotch bonnet and thyme. Again, gently toss to distribute.

3. Drizzle Browning to mixture, and with wet fingers, combine until cauliflower is darkened. 

4. Cover and refrigerate for at least 4 hours, preferably over-night.

Brown cauliflower:

1. Heat a large skillet on medium-high heat. Then add grape seed  oil. Allow oil to heat for 30 seconds.

 (You may add your brown sugar here if you don’t have bottled browning ) 

2. Separate the cauliflower for the rest of the ingredients. Add cauliflower steaks to hot pan in single layer, making sure to not overcrowd the pan, so that the cauliflower will properly brown. You may have to do it in multiple batches depending on the size of your pan. Allow the cauliflower to brown on one side before turning (3 – 5 minutes). Turn, and repeat on the other side. You may also have to stand the pieces on their heads to ensure the florets also brown.

3. Remove cauliflower from pan and transfer to a clean plate.

Sauté Seasoning and Stewing:

Ingredient:

* 2 tbsp grape seed oil

* 1 tbsp tomato paste

* 1/4 cup dry red wine

* Vegetable stock or water

* 2 tbsp ketchup

* 1 bay leaf

* 2 tsp non-dairy butter I use Earth Balance

1. Reduce heat to medium. Add remaining seasonings (onions, pepper, thyme, etc) to pan. Sauté, stirring often until onions are soft (4-5 minutes). Season with pinch of salt and black pepper.

2. Add tomato paste. Stir to combine and allow to cook for 1 minute. Season with a pinch of salt and black pepper.

3. Deglaze pan by adding red wine to hot pan and scraping the pan around to release all bits stuck to the pan. (This stuck bits are called suc.) Cook for another minute.

4. Raise heat to medium-high, then add the cauliflower back to the pan. Add ketchup and bay leaf.

5. Add enough vegetable stock or water to come up to the sides of the cauliflower without completely covering (1 – 2 cups). Season with a pinch of salt and pepper.

6. Cook uncovered for 10-15 minutes until cauliflower is fork-tender. 

Finishing Up:

1. By now the liquid should have been reduced to a thick sauce. If not, raise heat and allow to reduce for another 3-5 minutes until thickened. Turn off heat, but allow pan to remain on the hot surface. Add butter and allow to dissolve. Gently stir to combine.  Here I have it with some “provisions and flour” as they would say in Jamaica.