I am content with who I am, With each new day, I become a better woman, I am grateful for what I have, I strive for greatness, not to be better than.
My journey is mine, it’s unique and true, I will not compare myself to you, I am focused on my own goals, My blessings are abundant, my soul glows.
So I walk my path, head held high, Grateful for my life, no need to vie, With anyone else, I am enough, My own blessings are plenty, that’s no bluff.
In exotic lands, I love to roam, Exploring new places, And cultures unknown.
Dark and tall, Vulnerable and strong, The men I encounter, I find to be so long.
Deep extracurriculars, That tease and delight, Handsome black men, With whom I indulge in the night.
Each one unique, Each one a treasure, I’ll continue to explore, At my own leisure.
Love is a treasure, pure and true
A feeling that I’ve always knew
To share with someone, heart to heart
And never stray, to cheat or part
But love can be a fragile thing
And sometimes, it comes with a sting
My lover was a liar, you see
And the lies, they broke and confused me
They made me ill and full of doubt
But still, I couldn’t shake love out
For even in the darkest hour
I knew I couldn’t let it cower
So I’ll love love, with all my might
Though past experiences have been quite a fight
For true love is built on trust and honesty
And I’ll keep searching for that, with dignity
Love is pure, and love is strong
But lies, they do not belong
I’ll take my time, and choose with care
For a love that’s pure, is truly rare.
He told me tales of love and light But in the end, it was all lies He whispered words that sounded true But now I see, they were but a ruse
The truth was hidden, deep inside and now my heart is filled with pride For I will not be fooled again By those who choose to wear a mask and pretend
Sadness creeps in like the tide But I will not let it be my guide For I am stronger than I know and I will not let his lies make me slow
So I will rise and I will stand and I will take back what is mine My heart, my soul, my dignity and I will not let him see me cry
For I am more than what he said And I will not let him have the last word I will move on and I will be free and in the end, that is all that matters to me.
No? How am I supposed to take it?
The point is, I LIKE to take things personally, I think it creates an interesting challenge — even closeness — and makes for lively, honest conversations that even lead to something, like discoveries about each other! I also not only like to take things personally, I like people to take ME and the things I do and say personally, because I’m a person who tries to be as personal as possible. Why? Because it gives me a soft, warm, emotional and personal feeling. It glosses over my insecurities and makes me feel like being “seen”, recognized, something we all crave, no matter how silly that is.
Of course, there are things I definitely don’t take personally or really don’t care about one way or another. Like when a dog would try to bite me, or if the bus driver doesn’t smile, or when a homeless lets down his pants on the subway and starts swinging it around — a daily sight in NYC.
Nope, not taking any of that personally. As for the rest… 🙄
The harsh reality is that we live in a cruel world where more often then not, darkness can be found not only surrounding our every day lives, but can also be felt within ourselves. The flickering of news channels and news articles can almost always be counted on to be a bearer of bad new. Showing how much humanity is in chaos with the world and itself.
Truth is that at the very moment your eyes are passing these very words, people are dying while others are crying. There are murderers, rapists, and abusers in this world causing their victims turmoil of a living hell. Millions of souls in this world are slowly losing faith in their dreams and hopes such as a candle light flickering just before it’s final moments of forever being blown out. There are people who are losing everything they ever loved, who are depressed beyond belief, who are suffering a disease that could take their lives atany moment and who feel like their losing a war at which an unknown monster is winning. At this moment, people are homeless trying to find a way to survive each day. At this moment, there are people who are starving wondering where to find food each day. And at this moment, someone out there is ending their life because they decided they couldn’t handle the cruelty of this world anymore. And throughout all this, we stand and witness all this sadness and destruction.
There’s a saying out there: The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.
And that’s just it. The world is a cruel place, but it is not without its good. I mean, for how evil this world is, there are so many people who do not sit by and not do anything about it. There are countless of people who are trying to help the less fortunate, who are trying to right the wrongs, and if anything…out there hoping for a better tomorrow. In a world full of darkness, it is still important to remember there are countless lights of good people with good hearts that still can be found and with it, hope for a this world to improve and be better. And as you’re reading these words, be one of the lights in this vast darkness. Be one of the good in this cruel world. Don’t let the darkness snuff out your light.
One of my favorite books of all time is “The Four Agreements” by don Miguel Ruiz. I first saw Mr. Ruiz on the OWN network and I was so inspired by his words that I read this book. One thing about the book that really got me wasn’t just the fact that I could relate to everything I read, but I was also taken by the explanations of why we humans think the way we do. I was particularly fascinated by the second agreement, “Don’t Take Anything Personally” because it revealed to me that people interact with others from their own perspectives and they judge based on what is within their own minds and what they were taught to believe.
A person’s opinion of you is solely based on the way they think, it is not about you. The trouble comes when you take what they say to be an accurate representation of you and allow their perception to damage the way you see yourself. An opinion is solely a product of one’s mind and it is formed from their one’s own experiences, beliefs, and even prejudices. Each person has a unique mind, so why are we offended when a person shares their unique perspective in a manner we interpret as harsh and rude? We are offended because we have not strengthened our sense of self and forget to focus on acceptance within because we are so busy looking for subjective validation from sources that are biased and fallible.
I am frightened that physical intimacy might ruin our great friendship.
So I’ll be gone until November. 😩
Sincerely,
Dkay
I love my friends and family, and my friends I have chosen are not obsessed with overconsumption. But my family (not as bad as most people) and society are always obsessed with consumption of pointless things and I feel like I’m suffocating in society. I see these people dedicate their lives and time to this constant upgrade and overconsumption. The external pressure makes me feel alienated when I don’t join in, and their blindness to something that seems too obviously asinine to me the more I open my eyes!
DatGurlDkay 